We Make Our Bed to Lie In


Here, we don’t think it would happen to us.
We think we are immune from the savagery
of human desperation, human hate, human inhumanity.
How we even define these words: desperation, hate, inhumanity reflect our biased beliefs. These definitions contain nothing of what we have no experience. Not here.

So it is no wonder that we aren’t concerned about what we’re doing to our men. Beginning with our young sons, we have swallowed our good sense. We may one day choke on realizing that we didn’t fail our sons. No, we didn’t fail our brothers and our men. We failed everyone.

We failed our forebears and we failed future generations of people living free from tyranny, free from enslavement to others.

We will fail humanity if we do not acknowledge and end our campaign that may very well become our march to death.

When the very worst happens, when the borders are breeched, when the doors are broken down and the monstrosity of war invites itself to your family’s dinner table, you will understand.
Finally, you will understand that what we need, what all women need, is to live among men that are willing and eager to defend their people. If your children are yet grown, you will understand that what we need, what all of us need, are men that aren’t ‘nice’. We don’t need men that are sensitive, considerate of your needs or cooperative with our demands.
We never needed this.
When the world around goes dark with war, we will need what we have rejected and despised.
When my world is threatened, my home under siege, I want a killer. I want a bad man, a man that is vicious, violent and has blood lust to protect and defend his people, his family, his honor. We should have been raising our sons with both appreciation and respect for their natural aggressions and tendencies to fight. We should have been raising our daughters to keep their egos in under control and to be accountable for their relationships.

We needed to feed the egos of our men, not deprive and starve them by throwing a scrap when we could be bothered to care. We should have never believed the lies.
Instead, we raised our sons to play nice. We raised our sons to be mothers of the children we abandoned to pursue our selfish desires and petty wants. We don’t know what we want. We never considered the possibility that maybe we don’t always think rationally. We never considered for a moment that perhaps the problems we see are problems we created.

No, instead: We medicated our sons. We reduced them to commodities, disposable labor, cheap sex.
They become men that will turn and run away when the enemy is at the door. They still run faster than us, you know. We tried to bring them down to our size, to equalize the differences, and we succeeded in making them equally useless to defend us. The weak, the vulnerable, the very young and the very old have no one to champion them in the face of disaster.

This is our fault. This is the fault of women.
We said we can do anything a man can do. Some even insisted that we can do it better.
We swallowed that lie and we have poisoned the well that would have saved us.

7 thoughts on “We Make Our Bed to Lie In

  1. I am shocked that someone could speak this truth. Shocked and amazed.

    It’s the difference between Odysseus and Adonis, but much much worse.


  2. Hi EL,
    This post needs to be printed out and put on everyone’s walls. I love your blog and your viewpoint. You have been so eloquently putting into words the current feelings I have about society. Brava! I am raising my sons to be strong and gently encouraging my husband to be the head of the household. It’s time the patriarchy took America back. Love the post about your grandfather. Reminds me of my life a little.

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  3. I would like to add a bit to this conversation. What you have said is mostly quite truthful and sadly I have to agree that the “warrior class” of men has been dissolved from western society. What is left is mostly effeminate wimps and women “wannbees”; the true warriors have left the building.

    You said “When the world around goes dark with war, we will need what we have rejected and despised.
    When my world is threatened, my home under siege, I want a killer. I want a bad man, a man that is vicious, violent and has blood lust to protect and defend his people, his family, his honor.”

    From the sickly crop of the modern “empowered” and liberated western women of today, please tell me which ones deserve a warrior and why any man should raise a hand or sword to defend them? For our honor? I think not. A warrior does not gain honor by defending one’s enemy. Oh, sorry; my bad….now that females have been forced into the ranks of combat soldiers for the sake of equality, destroying unit cohesion and effectiveness; these are the new and improved protectors of of liberty in the west.

    I served on an all male US fighting ship in the 1970’s, going toe-to-toe and fist-to-fist with the opposing navy of the Soviet Union. I absolutely cannot imagine hearing a female voice like breaking glass over the intercom giving us an order to open fire in combat. Sorry, no.

    So, where was I? Right….You do realize that in certain other countries and religions that women’s rights are not a huge deal or major topic of conversation? The men of those cultures have no empathy or tolerance for the western woman bullshit. Once these gentle and kind men arrive on our shore in greater numbers in the not to distant future, perhaps you will learn to like burqas. Have a nice day, ladies.

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    1. You realize that I am in complete agreement with your sentiments, here, right? My opinion about women in the military and even as police officers is not ambiguous.
      I have no hope left for the “liberated” woman who insists she is entitled to the fruits of a kingdom she did not labor to build, nor suffer the consequences of. She can and probably will, go fuck herself into perpetuity. Thanks for adding your insights. I wish the outlook were not so from.


  4. o·be·di·ence
    compliance with an order, request, or law or submission to another’s authority.

    E-L, yes I do realize you are in agreement with my comments. After spending some time reading the many articles you have authored on your blog, somehow that does not surprise me much.

    Over the past few years I have observed a growing western female backlash against the toxic feminist ideology and the wingnuts that believe in it. It is quite amazing that at long last, the females are standing together and saying “enough!” Women collectively sense what they almost but not quite totally have lost, their providers and warriors, and it scares the shit out of them.

    All that being said, my duty to only one certain woman is well defined; over decades she has earned the right for my complete protection, loyalty, respect and love. I married her; and as a side note to these comments, she is not from this country nor is she from this bastardized western culture we are living under.

    Please bear with me for just a moment as I boast about my woman a little. She is a gentle soul, sweet disposition and a very feminine personality. This lady, my lady, has never wanted to “wear the pants” in our family, we both know there is but one head of household; that is my responsibility. She took her marriage vows seriously including the “love, honor and obey” part. Perhaps the modern females ought to consider growing old alone and know it need not be their fate, but they must change.

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